Many thanks to Miss Emily for writing this month's blog post!
If you’ve been at Prelude Music Classes for long, you will have heard a teacher remind all the grownups that they need to sing, dance, and let their voices and bodies be free! Though we all say it differently, it is something we teachers consider crucial to the success of our classes. But why?
As parents, we are all too aware of how our own behavior affects our children. We use polite language in hopes that our children will model polite language themselves. The same goes for all kinds of behavior: using good table manners, speaking in a calm voice, exercising, reading, taking deep breaths when we need to.
I confess that when I raise my voice at my own kids in anger, the anger is usually followed by worry – am I teaching them to yell? To lose patience? In other words, our parental instincts tell us that children inherit behavior from us, the adults who love them. It’s also true about music-making! Just as they model our other behaviors, children tend to model singing and dancing when we demonstrate it ourselves. This idea is so fundamental to Music Together® that it comprises our third philosophy: The participation and modeling of parents and other primary caregivers is essential to a child’s musical growth.
So what does this mean? For many first-time Music Together participants, the idea of singing and dancing in front of others is deeply uncomfortable or even scary. But if we accept the idea that children model what we demonstrate, and we also want our children to be able to make music, we have to let go of our inhibitions. When your child hears you sing and sees you dance, there is no critique; your child is simply getting the message that singing and dancing is what people do!
In fact, research strongly suggests that human beings are born, and have adapted, to make music. There is also something to be said for attempting an activity you may not be entirely comfortable with. When your child sees you trying to keep the beat, hears you singing harmony, or listens to you layering sounds in class along with the other adults, you are making a big impression. Even if – perhaps especially if – you’ve never considered yourself a “musical person,” being an active class participant demonstrates to your child that music is for everyone, not just people who are widely perceived as “talented.” Sometimes a round will completely fall apart in class, and we either try it again or laugh at how silly we sounded. Think about how important it is to model those responses for our children!
You are demonstrating so many behaviors when you make music inside and outside of class: challenging oneself, creating community, being in the moment, engaging in silliness and play, releasing inhibitions. Yes, it can feel uncomfortable to be asked to sing and dance in front of other people, but I like to remind our families that the only one really paying attention to you is your child!
So next time you come to class, take a moment to remember this: your singing and dancing is a gift to your child, your family, and our world in so many ways.
Music is a universal language. It transcends boundaries and reaches beyond culture to touch the depths of our souls, express our common emotions, and inspire us all. Now serving 2,500 communities in over 40 countries, Music Together connects families and communities across the globe as they express and explore our basic human instinct for making music.
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